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DEAR OPEN DOOR: Handle this the same way you would if you were writing about the young woman having a boyfriend. Tell her you are uncomfortable with sexual activity going on in your home and prefer that if she entertains her girlfriend in her bedroom, she must leave the door open.

My 18-year-old stepdaughter has decided to date another female. She has dated boys in the past, but that’s not the issue. We have nothing against the LGBTQ community (my husband’s brother is gay). My issue is whether my stepdaughter should spend time with her girlfriend in her bedroom with the door closed?

Handle this the same way you would if you were writing about the young woman having a boyfriend. Tell her you are uncomfortable with sexual activity going on in your home and prefer that if she entertains her girlfriend in her bedroom,

When my stepdaughter was dating boys, our rule was she kept her bedroom door open when she had visitors. How do I convey the same rule applies when she her girlfriend comes to call?